I've been rereading Starfire, and last night when I was reading the part just after Mossberry as killed and Star was blaming himself, I couldn't help thinking about a quote form my favorite book (not series, that's TGH of course) "Ender's Game" (btw, it's not even close to being a children's book so I will not encourage you to read it) so I found it today and decided to post it:

Sorry it's so blurry and if you can't read it, it says: "If you try and lose then it isn't your fault, but if you don't try and we lose, then it's all your fault" -Orson Scott Card, Ender's Game. I can't remember who said it in the book exactly, but I think it was Mazer Rackham was the one who said it.